Santiago Delboy, MBA, LCSW, S-PSB
My Approach to Therapy
I believe that the reasons why people typically seek therapy, such as anxiety, depression, addictions, anger, loneliness, or relationship issues, are usually symptoms of the difficulties they have dealing with painful, conflicting, or unacceptable experiences, feelings, and parts of who they are. I believe it is important to go beyond the symptoms and understand the pain that lies behind.
Working through these issues involves expanding our ability to be aware, to tolerate, and to express feelings that might be difficult. I believe the therapeutic relationship offers a unique context for this process. In that context you can learn new perspectives and receive support, but also gain awareness and understanding of your patterns as they emerge in each session. It is in this relationship where healing and growth can happen.
My job is to be curious about your experience and join you in the journey to expand and reconnect with yourself. I care about your personal experiences and what they mean to you, your struggles and aspirations, who you are and who you want to become. Together we can create space for your pain, fear, joy, love, losses, longings, hopes, and dreams. All your experiences, feelings, and thoughts are welcomed. We will do that at a pace that feels comfortable, without any rush and especially without any judgements.
As you expand your capacity to understand, feel, and relate, and as you recognize and accept parts of yourself that you had learned to hide or hate, you will experience freedom and authenticity. Therapy can be a long and risky journey. You might open the doors to uncomfortable feelings or see yourself in ways you don't recognize. This is the journey of personal growth and you don't need to do it alone.
Specialties and Interests
I help people who feel stuck, trapped, or confused by their own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. They usually feel there is something missing from their lives: a fulfilling relationship, passion, meaning, or inner peace. I help my clients identify and change the patterns they keep falling into, and live with more awareness, wholeness and connection.
My clients include individuals who experience anxiety, depression, irritability, loneliness, identity crisis, self-doubt, negative thoughts, low self-esteem, shame, or relationship issues with others. I also help individuals dealing with life-work balance issues, life transitions, cultural adjustment, and men’s issues.
I also work with people experiencing compulsive sexual behavior, sometimes labeled as sex addiction or out-of-control sexual behavior. I do this from a completely non-judgmental and sex positive standpoint. I do not believe there is only one way to address this issue; together we can understand what it is about, what it means to you, and what you want to do about it.
I have always been curious about what makes people who they are. It took me some time to get to a place where I felt I could truly start in this profession. In the meantime, my journey included taking the risk leaving the country where I grew up and, later on, a successful career in the corporate world. Life brought me many experiences filled with love, loss, fear, hope, darkness and light. I am grateful for all of it, as made me who I am today.
The arts and music in particular, are very important to me.I have been playing the piano since I was a child, both for fun and for self expression, and used to play with an a Brazilian percussion band and in drumming circles. I am always thinking of doing it again. A part of me also misses teaching, which I have done in one way or another for over 10 years. I love traveling and enjoying good food, although I definitely appreciate some quiet down time to read, write, or just be.
Education and Training
Chicago Center for Psychoanalysis: Fellowship in Psychoanalysis and Certificate in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy
Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health: Specialist in Problematic Sexual Behavior
The Gottman Institute: Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 and 2)
Loyola University Chicago: Masters of Social Work (MSW), Concentration in Mental Health
University of Texas at Austin: Masters of Business Administration (MBA)
Pontificia Universidad Católica del Perú: B.A. in Psychology
Delboy, S. (2016). Attachment and Recovery: Combining 12-Step Programs and Group Psychotherapy to Treat Addiction. In: Revitalizing Our Social Group Work Heritage: A Bridge to the Future.
Delboy, S. (2015). Evidence-based practice for sex addiction: A clinical case illustration. Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity.
Korshak, S.J. & Delboy, S. (2013). Complementary modalities: Twelve step programs and group psychotherapy for addiction treatment. Group.